Three Important Steps On The Way To Overcoming Your Tardiness

Posted under I am Always Late on Friday 14 August 2009 at 10:15 pm

TardinessAs I have already said, many of those people who are chronically late or tardy have a tendency to justify their behavior by various outside factors. In other words, it is difficult for them to be honest with themselves and recognize the problem. That is why they go on looking for reasons and making up excuses for their improper behavior. However, there are times or certain situations, when these people start feeling sad or embarrassed because of their chronic tardiness. In such moments, there’s a great opportunity for them to begin working on changing their personality and giving up bad habit of being always late.

If you are one of those tarides, you should try changing your chronic tardiness and lateness in three steps. According to Diana Delonzor, the best option for you is to begin with monitoring closely your daily activities and write down, how many times you were late due to really important outside reasons and influences. Then, the expert recommends to recall all those regretful and embarrassing moments connected with your being late, as well as numerous uncompleted tasks, wrong steps, missed opportunities, canceled projects and so on. In order to acknowledge the problem you should fully understand negative consequences of your tardiness and lateness.

The second step is changing your mind and attitude toward punctuality. You should understand that being always late is nothing else but your personal choice, which takes source from the way you precept this world and look at your environment. To change your idea about chronic lateness and punctuality, you should look at the situation with the eyes of other people. Would you like the others making you wait all the time or breaking their promises? Will you still value and respect such people? It can be helpful to talk about your problem with someone you trust, with  a good friend or a relative who can give you an objective feedback on your usual behavior.

Finally, the third step is going into action and starting making some practical changes in your life. Rewarding yoruself for every successful attempt of not being late  is one of the most effective practical techniques, which can be generally used wen trying to change any bad behavior. Besides, you can punish youself every time when you are not punctual. For example, you can say your friends that you will pay for their meals every time you are late for a meeting or a party. This technique may work real great! Finally, you can ask people around you to assist and encourage you when you manage to be on time. Positive reaction of the people you love can be an excellent motivator for you to start changing yourself more effectively.

4 Comments »

  1. Comment by george j — September 14, 2009 @ 5:14 pm

    I am always late in the morning but rarely late to meetings. I have a tremendous difficulty embracing the workday and diving in, but once in, I am like a tiger on meat and usually stay late too. I feel like it’s a mental thing for me… beyond my control. Every once in a while, that pisses someone else off, usually someone who doesn’t appreciate me or know me. It’s a stupid thing to let people target me with. I know I should stop it, but I can’t.

  2. Comment by madhu — April 2, 2010 @ 9:03 am

    Hi,

    LAZINESS CAN BE OVERCOMED BY ONLY THINKING OF THE HORRIBLE CONSEQUENCES.
    E.G: You avoid exercise – visit a hospital and see the people who are lying down because of obesity, heart attack and other diseases which could be prevented by some exercise and good habit.

  3. Comment by EC — April 24, 2010 @ 7:50 pm

    george j,

    What you described is exactly the problem I have. I do come in late most mornings, but I am on top of my work and rarely take long breaks or lunch and I do end up making up whatever time I’ve missed in the mornings because I’m usually there a little later. I know that I have to be there earlier in the mornings, but somehow I’ve never been able to accomplish that. I have to work on it, but I’m worried that I’ll never be able to be at work on time.

  4. Comment by apple — September 7, 2010 @ 12:30 pm

    Tardiness does NOT equate to LAZINESS. Though I am a tardy person most people I’ve encountered that are tardy are the HARDEST workers and most admired/hated at work. Though tardiness is wrong it is NOT the biggest issue at work in my opinion. Incompetence & laziness are more detrimental. Some of those tardies are actually the best workers unfortunatley their weakness is for all to see and because they usually excel in their work others take the opportunity to critcize them on this embarassing and noticiable flaw. Keep working on it tardies try being at work 1/2 hour before you’re due. This will cut down on the 5 to 10 minutes you come in late

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