I am Always Late

Anxiety is one of the basic human emotions which all of us experience quite regularly, to one or another degree, of course. Just like most of other emotions we, humans, experience, anxiety can turn into something that does more harm than good. In particular, excessive excitement and anxiety are considered among the most common reasons for being always late and too distracted. In the most severe forms, anxiety must be understood as a psychological disorder which should be treated and controlled otherwise it can bring to quite hard and harmful consequences.

Those who think that they experience anxiety too often should not leave the problem unattended and check up with a medical specialist to be sure that the problem hasn’t grown into a real anxiety disorder. Below, you can see a list of easy hints on how to figure out whether your anxiety has become a disorder or not.

1. Your anxiety is rather chronic than occasional. Constant or frequent anxiety can be a sign of serious problems, and if you notice that you constantly worry through the day about the things you’re doing or experiencing, it can be the time to see a specialist.

2. Avoidance can be also a sign in increasing anxiety and related problems. Avoiding things, events, places or activities is considered to be a natural reaction on anxiety disorders. For example, it can be related to some certain fears or phobias, which accompany anxiety disorders very often.

3. A lack of proper social life. Undoubtedly, fears and anxiety have a great influence on our social life, but when anxiety grows into something that pushes a person to isolation and breaking down most of the relationships, it is a clear sign of anxiety disorders. If your friendships and other close relationships are in danger due to your constant anxiety, it is a bad warning sign.

4. Poor performance at work. Sometimes anxiety can interfere and influence the things we’re doing in the offices, in schools and in our life. It is obvious that when your anxiety affects your performance and does not allow you be successful in anything, this emotion should be considered causing disorder.

5. Feeling anxiety even in the most usual and non-dangerous situations. This is the most powerful and indicative sign, because usually we experience anxiety in critical situations, often related to danger or very high importance. If you began noticing that your anxiety follows you even in very simple and usual situations, which are not related to danger at all, this can be a clear sign of anxiety disorder.

Those folks who are always late know so well that there are many reasons of chronic lateness and tardiness. Most of them take source of our daily lifestyle and habits, some originate from our time management problems and laziness, and some should be looked for in the deepness of our personality. Many latecomers have personal problems, like too low self-esteem, wrong self-perception or a  lack of self-control.

Many chronic latecomers, especially women, suffer from the problems of being always late due to their hyper-excitability. For example, it is a very typical situation when a young lady of our times is getting late to work, meetings or even parties as she gets excited and spends hours for choosing a good bag, or skirt, or shoes. Excessive excitement and anxiety does not give her an opportunity to keep her thoughts together and control her time.

Such syndromes as excessive excitement and anxiety are always followed by strong urges to alleviate them through, for instance, the desire of looking perfect, or being somehow different from other people. Such strong attacks of excitement or fears not to be perfect or at least good, always divert people’s attention and not let them focus on another, not less important issue: being on time.

It is essential to learn how to handle your excessive excitement and anxiety. The first important step is being able to recognize the moment when your anxiety started interfering with your efforts on being on time. As soon as you have noticed that you are getting more and more anxious about the way you look or the way you are supposed to be, you should be able to interrupt this tendency immediately.

The second step is learning how to effectively alleviate your excitement, calm down and being focused on the time again. You can use such technique as a self-talk, or deep breathing, or counting to twenty. For the time you are counting, you can understand that your calls to choose new dress were to a certain degree absurd, and your attempts to be more than perfect were only taking your time. Try to get concentrated on the things you are going to do at the party or at the meeting, and persuade yourself that your only goal now is not to be late again.