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There is a common belief that losers – whether they are losers in a certain competition or game, or they are total losers in this life – are usually acting more aggressively, and the winners usually act more tolerant and kind toward the defeated. However, it was found out that the realities of our life made winners act much more aggressively and tough towards the losers. Not only psychological tests and studies have shown this tendency, I am sure that all of us observed this type of aggressive behavior of the high and mightiest of our times almost everywhere around. Today’s psychologists and social experts are vividly discussing this social phenomenon in modern mass media.

“It seems that people have a tendency to stomp down on those they have defeated, to really rub it in,” said Brad Bushman,  professor of communication and psychology at Ohio State University. His specialists carried out a couple of social modeling experiments with a number of participants (mainly college students), trying to find out how today’s winners behave toward the losers. It turned out that those who win a competition tend not only to show their superior position, but also act as aggressive as possible: in particular, in the task which involved using sound as an indicator of their feelings, the winners always used the loudest possible sound to indicate their emotions of aggression.

The cause of this saddening tendency is to be discovered yet, and the psychologists suggest that aggression is a reaction of the winners on their being superior and powerful which they become after winning a competition or something else in this life. The cause can be the feeling of power which is usually exercised by aggressive behavior. “People were more aggressive when they were better off than when they were worse off than others,” says the expert. Very often the aggression of the winners is directed toward not only the defeated, but also toward other people as well. Unfortunately, winning in something makes most of us forget that actually other people can be better and win in something else.

Therefore, we are actually facing a dilemma: we can stick with winners in this life, who are more aggressive and more tough to the people around, or we shall stick with losers, who can be a little less aggressive and more kind, but still failing to achieve success. What idea can be better – it’s up to everyone of us. Whatever your decision is going to be, there’s no need in fearing the winners and sympathizing the losers, cos’ this life is a vary complex game, and one day you are a winner, and another day you can be a loser, too. That is why we all should avoid aggressive behavior and being tough toward the others, for our own safety and success in this life.