I am Always Late

Some men are very well familiar with the following situation: they wake up in the morning and go to work to meet their abusive boss. He is always aggressive, loud and using fowl language, stubborn and authoritarian. He is all around all day long and there’s no way to escape from him. And when the working day is over, the poor man goes back home where his abusive wife is waiting for him. She can demonstrate physical aggression including clawing, kicking, throwing things into him, destroying property, be verbally abusive, or use any other sort of abuse.  As a result the man is bound to get constantly depressed, lose his interest in the life, get sick, and – definitely to be always late.

Certainly, this situation the worst imaginable picture of a man’s life, however, according to the findings of a recent study, having as abusive boss can seriously harm a man’s private life and even literally turn his wife into an abusive one. The experts at Baylor University are sure that those men who suffer from abusive and aggressive bosses are at high risks of having the same kind of problems in their families, including lower satisfaction from their relationships with the wife and children. These findings were recently published in online journal Personnel Psychology.

The study included questioning and analyzing the situation at work of 280 office employees, as well as studying their personal relationships with their family members. If a man’s professional life dominates with rudeness, a lack of understanding, public criticism and other abusive behavior of the superiors, it always reflects his private life. “It may be that as supervisor abuse heightens tension in the relationship, the employee is less motivated or able to engage in positive interactions with the partner and other family members,” Merideth Ferguson, one of the study leaders, said.

As a result, all negativism, stresses and constant irritation affect family life of men, and these tendencies can end up as terrible as divorce. If a man is being abused in the office, he feels constant anger and tension, a lack of competence, starts questioning all the relationships in his life. Experts believe that such stressor as abusive behavior of a superior is one of the most destructive factors which can affect personal life of the employees. That is why it is necessary to use workplace supervision and surveillance techniques in order to prevent abusive behavior of bosses and protect the employees from the effects of the abuse.

Being always late is a habit of many people around us. Usually, this habit starts forming in those times when we are teenagers and are learning to make decisions on our own. Some teenagers turn into chronic latecomers because they are just slow by their nature. Some teenagers are really overloaded with their daily activities, duties or responsibilities, so they are getting used to always running behind their schedules and being always late. Some teenagers are lazy and do not actually care about anything, they prefer spending their time playing PC games or watching TV shows thinking that they will always manage to escape responsibility for their life. There can be other factors and reasons causing this nasty habit in young people.

Those who are thinking that being chronically late is not a big deal and this habit will never bring to anything serous can check out the list below and think about it again. Is it worth to spend time for laziness or ding useless things if this can lead to quite serious problems? Do not underestimate the power of punctuality, and if you are having issue with this, go on reading.

1. By being always late you can easily lose your job. Certainly, your potential employer will not like you being late, and even your being on time for the first job interview may not save the situation. Being late for work means for the employers showing no respect to them, both professionally and personally.

2. By being always late you can lose your money. It is possible to pick a great deal of examples to illustrate this example. If you’re late, your tickets can be given away, your items can be sold , your food can be eaten and your place can be taken. You can miss some important events and opportunities, you can lose your chances and miss your good luck. Remember that making plans and learning how to follow them will help you avoid these situations and not to lose important things in your life.

3. By being always late you can lose your friends. Living or dealing with the people who are always late is extremely distressful, and quite a few of your true friend can be ready to endlessly wait for you being late for meeting, for lunch or for any other occasion. They can understand that you may have had other very important things to do, but if your habit of being always late affects their plans and their life, they will make a right choice and sooner or later try to eliminate you from their life.

4. By being always late you can lose your reputation. If you are always late, people will feel that they can not trust you, and it is very hard to achieve success in the life for those who do not evoke trust in others. Remember that this nasty habit can cost you a lot and turn your existence into a really miserable one.

Procrastination is among the most common causes behind being always late. Procrastinators are those people who tend to find out millions reasons for not doing something they do not want or like doing. For example, they can start doing house chores instead of preparing a report or writing articles for a scientific magazine. Procrastination is something related to prioritizing the tasks and figuring out what is important for us at that very moment. Prioritizing and our effectiveness in it is a criteria which allowed Dr. John Perry define such a phenomenon as structured procrastination.

In his articles, Dr. Perry opens secrets of structured procrastination as an art of making procrastination work for our benefit. According to him, regular procrastinators just avoid doing things and are rarely busy with some really useful things and tasks. If they have something important to do, they’d rather do gardening or cleaning their apartment. Regular procrastination is linked to an irresistible desire to procrastinate with doing something very important, and there’s no procrastinator on earth who would go in for cleaning or gardening in case if those tasks are the most important for them for the moment.

Structured procrastination is a more complex thing. It is based on manipulating with the tasks of the top importance and the tasks which are a bit less important for the moment. At that, those who can find the balance perfectly well can earn much of success and recognition. Here’s an example: a teacher who gets sickened of getting ready for his lectures and checking out student’s essays chooses to spend a lot of time with his family and gains a reputation of a perfect father. He manages to keep up with his professional activities as well, however, usually spends only minimal efforts on that.

The specifics of structured procrastination is finding a moment when the most important tasks which the procrastinator tends to avoid doing, become less important and start having less meaning for the moment. For example, if you need to pick apples in October and November, but November is also the time for picking oranges, then for structured procrastinator picking apples in November will be a great deal! That is how it is possible to have things done in the framework of structured procrastination. And if you managed to master an art of “picking the right sorts of projects to the top of the list”, structured procrastination can work great and even bring more success to our life.