I am Always Late

As we already know, what role such factors as laziness, depression and apathy can play for developing such nasty habit as being always late. Laziness and depression are the most common signs that many people display in the time period from late February to early April. This type of seasonal laziness, apathy and lack of inspiration can have serious effects on our productivity and psychological condition, but it is quite typical and many people have the same feelings this time of the year.

Actually, there are several types or sorts of apathy, which can be caused by certain factors like our health condition, stresses and so  on. If you wake up in the morning and feel very weak and lazy to perform even your usual daily rituals like making coffee or taking a shower, it can mean that your body is weakened and you need to support it by improving your diet. In this case, you laziness can be understood as a protective reaction of your body and mind, in order not to get too tired. A simple and good solution can be to add more foods rich in vitamin B, as well as to try making little changes in your daily routine and daily activities. Why don’t you spend more time outside walking around and looking for spring to arrive?

If your laziness manifests itself mostly at work and usually is linked to one definite type of job (writing reports, feeling a database, talking to your clients, etc.), it can mean that you actually feeling pressed and stressed out. This type of laziness can be pretty dangerous because it contributes greatly to accumulation of your tasks at work and making you being late again and again. Besides, you boss will tend to label you as a procrastinator that will affect your reputation, at least. Therefore, to get rid of this type of laziness, try to find the source of stress you are experiencing, and try to figure our what can be the best technique to combat this stress. Taking more rest, spending more time with your friends, aromatherapy, physical activities, a new hobby – those are the best anti-stress solutions I know.

There can be one more type of apathy and laziness which is linked to total exhaustion and constant overwork. Many hard-workers and chronic activists usually have really unlimited amounts of energy, but there are times when they just fall down and feel like not doing anything anymore. Sometimes it happens in the time of spring depression, too. Do not leave such situation to the flow, talk to your chief and ask for an assistant or tell him to relieve your job load, at least for some short period of time. It is very important too take pleasure from what you are doing, and, according to a recent study, apathy at work can cause even more serious outcomes than chronic stresses and depression. It is better to not do any work at all than do something that makes you feel apathetic or depressed.

Do you know that our good-old excuses are the worst enemies on the way to self-discipline and effectiveness? We always say to ourselves “I have no time for this now”, or “It is not the time for this”, or “It is a worthless waste of time”, or “I have no money for this now”, etc. The main idea of all these excuses is doing nothing. In other words, these excuses help us to justify our laziness and inertness. It seems that there’s nothing new in what I am saying now, but give it a thought: how many times a day you use these excuses…

For example, you want to start doing exercises every day and give yourself a word to get up 30 minutes earlier in the morning and exercise. In your mind, you start picturing how your body is becoming more fit and stronger, and you are set up for positive results and new exciting changes in your life. However, when the alarm rings in the morning, you start thinking: “No, why so early? I’ll stay in the bed for just 5 more minutes, it is so warm here.. Well, I’d better exercise in the evening…” And, when you come back home in the evening after hard working day, what kind of exercise can you think about? Especially when it is your favorite show on the TV…

This goes on and on day by day. Every time you have some important problems to solve and things to do which will distract you from making important steps on the way to your goals. We repeat to ourselves that “we have no time for this now”, and in many situations, this way we avoid positive changes. Sometimes we get really used to all these bad things in our life and we are not trying to do anything to change our life for better. I know a lot of such people who go on complaining about their life, but when I offer several solutions for their problems, they just say that they do not have time for that. Therefore, they avoid the things that can change their life for better.

This way, our excuses make us give up solving our problems, that leads to personal degradation, depression, psychological disorders and so on. Our problems multiply and turn into real troubles. What to do? How to get out of this circle? You should look for power in yourself. If you really want to change something in your life, you can always do that. You will destroy your obstacles and achieve your goals no matter what. Do not think that tomorrow (the next week or the next month) you will have more time and opportunities to solve your problem. It is only one of those good-old excuses. What can hold you from making at least a little step to solving your problem right now?

Do those little steps and fight against your laziness, your apathy, uncertainty, fears and hesitations. It is always easier to postpone and procrastinate, but your problem will not be solved this way. When we are trying to solve our problems and overcome obstacles, we develop and progress. If you have a problem, you always have power and means for solving it. When you overcome the obstacle and solve your problem, you are becoming stronger and more powerful. The obstacles we overcome give us power! Remember this all the time, remember that you are a strong person and remember that there is always the way out!

We all got used to the idea that laziness in any form is always something bad and negative, something we all need to fight against and feel embarrassed to demonstrate in public. However, there are always two sides of the same story, and there are situations when laziness should not be considered something shameful or embarrassing. Nothing is good in excessive amounts, as well as a habit to work hard. In such situation, using a little bit of laziness to calm down the urges to work hard without any rest will definitely have positive effects. Another type of healthy laziness is the one, which is supported by a good motivation. Fred Gratzon discusses the issues related to a motivated laziness in his blog, My Lazy Way to Success.

In his writing, Fred talks about two types of laziness. One is  a true evil, a type of laziness, when its owner tries by all means to avoid any possible sort of work which requires making some efforts. It is a basic form of laziness and it will never result in something positive or useful. Another is a good, healthy laziness of a higher level, which can always work for the good of its owner. Fred describes it as a tendency to “skillfully avoiding work“. In other words, such laziness results in looking for the ways of accomplishing everything by making minimum efforts. Obviously, knowing how to have the things done faster, cheaper, more effectively and with minimum losses of the resources should not be considered destructive.

Laziness is not always a bad thing which ruins people’s lives and creates obstacles for becoming reach or successful. You know so well that working hard is not the only factor which leads to success. It is not less important to be educated, talented, insistent and, certainly, lucky. “If correctly utilized, laziness is a one way ticket to great success“, Fred Gratzon writes in his blog. A healthy motivated laziness can help us learn to find the shortest ways to achieveing and accompishing the tasks that must be done. Therefore, transferring your passive, apathic and depressive laziness into an energetic, alert and skillfull laziness can be a great key to a personal success!