Chronic Liars As Chronic Latecomers

Posted under I am Always Late on Tuesday 18 September 2012 at 9:50 pm

chronic liarsMany of us know that being always late is very common to those people who also have another bad habit: chronic lying. We all lie from time to time, some of us do this more often, and some of us do that less often. But chronic liars are those who use lying for making their way through, and usually do not care at all about how their lies harm other people. Chronic liars are living their lives thinking that they have some superior social skills, and most of those are convinced that their lies are never revealed. Since such people give no or very little concern about the feelings or time of other people, being always late is something absolutely acceptable and very common for them.

There are a few types of liars. Along with chronic liars, experts also define compulsive liars, pathological liars, or habitual liars. For all of them, lying is a normal reaction or an almost reflexive response to everything that’s going on around them. Chronic lying usually develops from childhood, and in adulthood telling lies seems the only right way to get through life. Lying people are trying to create around them a special atmosphere which is different from the reality. Such atmosphere brings them more comfort and makes them happier, that is why they are lying even though sometimes they know that lying actually can not bring to anything good. Liars are usually sociopaths who know how to manipulate people and achieve their most daring goals.

Why do they chose the way of lying? Some chronic liars can not accept themselves as they are. So they are ready for anything in order to create another personality of themselves, a visibly better, more attractive and more successful one. This can be a result of various factors. Some people have too low self-esteem and they are lying in order to look better in the eyes of others. Some people turn into chronic liars as a result of chronic stresses and negative emotions. For example chronic lying can be caused by severe criticism or forced social isolation that a person had to go through earlier in the life. Sometimes chronic lying can emerge as a result of a painful break-up or one-way love. People who lived that through use lying as a tool to protect themselves against possible failures in their social or love life.

Other chronic liars start lying because they can not stand on certain current events or relationships in their life. For example, a teenage son can start lying because he can not stand on living with his drinking parents, or if he feels embarrassed with a low social or economic status of his family. In this case, lying plays a role of protective mechanism against possible negative emotions and stresses caused by the mentioned factors. Lying allows creating a new personality, with a new interesting life and without the mentioned problems. Very often teenagers and young people turn into chronic liars as a result of a certain abuse by parents, teachers, peers, colleagues, bosses, and other people around them.

It is quite hard to cope with those people whose lying has turned into their second nature, and it can be twice hard if chronic liars are also chronic latecomers. The main goal is to make the person understand that his or her behavior hurts people around them and can end up with very serious consequences like ruining relationships, etc. Unfortunately, it is always very hard to make a chronic liar recognize the problem and start fighting against it. It can be effective to deal with chronic and compulsive lying by using the services of professionals and use counseling or other types of therapy.


Laughing 30 Minutes A Day Can Imrpove Out Physical And Psycological Health

Posted under Motivation on Monday 3 September 2012 at 1:55 am

Effects of LaughterKeeping positive is very important. Positive thinking can play a role of great motivator for us to make thousands of new achievements. Laughter can make us feel better and play a role of an excellent stimulant for our brain to focus on something, after a brief relaxation in the form of laughter. Followed by a burst of endorphins in our brain, laughter is considered the basic emotion essential for our survival and success. Laughter can help us establish strong bonds with the people around us, not only our friends and family, but also total can complete strangers, and even antagonists. Those who laugh and like laughing are usually more friendly and more easy going people, with great attitude to life and feeling happier about the world around.

Healing effects of laughter are very well known and thoroughly studied. It is reported by the scientists at the University of Maryland Medical Center, laughing should be considered a great natural technique to improve blood circulation, increase blood flow to the most of important organs and systems, this way strengthen our health. The same study has shown that laughter can be used for strengthening blood vessels and reducing the risks of many serious diseases like diabetes, obesity, and others. A good laughter has scientifically proven pain killing effects, it can improve the function of our immune system, and even has slight anti-inflammatory effects. Laughing is a great way to naturally burn calories and reduce body mass, as well as a way to exercise our heart and lungs.

The effects of laughing on our mental and psychological health are not less significant. A famous business coach and Life Mentor Craig Holiday underlines amazing properties of laughter as a powerful healing technique for many unwanted physical and psychological conditions. “I have beaten, sadness, pain, depression, and even some physical ailments by laughter,” Holiday writes. Laughter is a unique way to prevent stresses and depression, two very common conditions that affect our life to a great extent. “In a fastpaced world, stress-related diseases are on the rise. More than 70 per cent of illnesses are related to stress. To escape stress, people turn to alcohol, smoking and drugs. If only they realized the wonder medicine of laughter!” says Dr. Kataria Gupta, a cardiology expert at Indraprastha Apollo Hospitals.

Unfortunately, in our times a good laughter has turned into something rare. It is estimated that only 50 years ago people used to laugh about 18 minutes a day, in recent years this time has decreased down to 5-7 minutes a day giving us almost no opportunity to enjoy therapeutic effects of laughter. According to the information from Corriere della Sera, today’s children laugh 300-400 times a day, an their life is much easier and more pleasant! Why do we forget about such a simple way to get happier? Do you know that 61 per cent of modern men think that a laughing woman looks more attractive and beautiful. Do you know that laughter can help increase our productivity by 54 per cent, and our creativity by as much as 57 per cent?

Laughing for just 15 minutes a day can help you lose 2 kilos of fat every year. Specialists estimated that watching a very good comedy movie can help us burn as many calories as we would during a 1-km walk. By laughing just 10 minutes a day you can substantially decrease your risks of hypertension and depression, which, in turn, can lower your risks of suffering from serious diseases like heart disease or heart attack by 44 per cent. Claudio Mencacci, a chief of the Department of Neuroscience in Fatebenefratelli hospital in Milan claims that a regular good laughter can save our lives. Long live laughter! Use this unique emotion to live a healthier and happier life!