I am Always Late

Being chronically late is essentially procrastinating something inevitable. It may be some highly anticipated event or a nightmare that vanishes when you finally wake up breathing heavily and dripping with perspiration. If you are someone who has been accused of being a serial dawdler, been deemed as one of those irritating passive-aggressive or blatantly called a disorganized disaster waiting to happen, you at least are not too late to read about how you can change your tardy ways.

Understand it is not your fault you are always late. You probably grew up in a household where being late for appointments, dates, holiday functions or even work was standard behavior. Even bills were not paid on time, such as important car loans or the mortgage. The environment you inhabited as a child greatly influences your perception of the world and, as a result, you did not realize that not everybody waited until the last minute to get dressed. Nor did they spend fifteen minutes searching for a matching sock and another fifteen minutes bewailing the fact that someone put the toilet paper roll on backwards before finally racing out the door, only to be late–again.

Take this scenario for example: a friend is throwing another friend a baby shower and you are supposed to be there one hour ahead of time to decorate. Instead of taking a shower and preparing to leave at least 30 minutes before you need to be there, you suddenly find yourself with less than 15 minutes to get ready. Why? Well, according to the excuses you give our friend for being late, it was because you had to run to the store to buy shampoo, the cats needed fed, you were reading led TV reviews online because you were thinking about buying one and your car’s gas tank was on empty.

As you are telling your tale of woe you notice your friend rolling her eyes and looking irritated.

Sounds familiar?

10 Ways to Avoid Being Late

1. Researchers investigating chronically late people have found that many have difficulty estimating how long it takes them to perform an activity. To discover how long it takes you to do things, start writing down everything you do in one 24 hour period and exactly how long it takes you to do them.

2. The next time you need to be somewhere at a specific time, move back that time by one hour.

3. Learn to say no. Many people are often late because of others taking advantage of them.

4. Don’t let little things distract you. If you are out of shampoo, improvise with dishwashing liquid instead. Your hair won’t fall out!

5. Start planning your days instead of just letting them happen. Write down where you need to be, what time you need to be there and if anything needs to be done before these appointments.

6. Review and change routines that may be taking chunks of time away during the day. Change when you check your email (which can turn a quick five minute check into a sixty minute chat session).

7. Don’t be afraid to ask your punctual friends for help.

8. Attend a few counseling sessions with a professional, if you sincerely try and cannot alter your chronically late behavior. Underlying psychological issues may need addressed before this problem can be solved.

9. Ask your punctual friends with help getting organized.

10. Seriously think about how you would feel if your best friend was late for your birthday party, your wedding or other important occasion. Realize how being late affects everyone and not just you. Remember that being late is viewed as inconsiderate and sometimes obnoxious behavior.

With a lot of prioritizing, organizing and understanding why you are late, you too can master the art of being on time.

Kathleen Hubert is a blogger who writes on a variety of different sites. Check out more of her work at LED TV reviews

Some men are very well familiar with the following situation: they wake up in the morning and go to work to meet their abusive boss. He is always aggressive, loud and using fowl language, stubborn and authoritarian. He is all around all day long and there’s no way to escape from him. And when the working day is over, the poor man goes back home where his abusive wife is waiting for him. She can demonstrate physical aggression including clawing, kicking, throwing things into him, destroying property, be verbally abusive, or use any other sort of abuse.  As a result the man is bound to get constantly depressed, lose his interest in the life, get sick, and – definitely to be always late.

Certainly, this situation the worst imaginable picture of a man’s life, however, according to the findings of a recent study, having as abusive boss can seriously harm a man’s private life and even literally turn his wife into an abusive one. The experts at Baylor University are sure that those men who suffer from abusive and aggressive bosses are at high risks of having the same kind of problems in their families, including lower satisfaction from their relationships with the wife and children. These findings were recently published in online journal Personnel Psychology.

The study included questioning and analyzing the situation at work of 280 office employees, as well as studying their personal relationships with their family members. If a man’s professional life dominates with rudeness, a lack of understanding, public criticism and other abusive behavior of the superiors, it always reflects his private life. “It may be that as supervisor abuse heightens tension in the relationship, the employee is less motivated or able to engage in positive interactions with the partner and other family members,” Merideth Ferguson, one of the study leaders, said.

As a result, all negativism, stresses and constant irritation affect family life of men, and these tendencies can end up as terrible as divorce. If a man is being abused in the office, he feels constant anger and tension, a lack of competence, starts questioning all the relationships in his life. Experts believe that such stressor as abusive behavior of a superior is one of the most destructive factors which can affect personal life of the employees. That is why it is necessary to use workplace supervision and surveillance techniques in order to prevent abusive behavior of bosses and protect the employees from the effects of the abuse.