I am Always Late

I must say that being always late is becoming an easier and a more common practice, maybe because the number of excuses for being late is drastically increasing. “Sorry, I lost my limb right on the way here!” “Oh, those kids, you know – they never let you do anything you need on time.” “My apologies, today’s traffic is just horrible, I was waiting there for a half an hour at least before we moved forward!!” “Oh, God, sorry – I just can’t help being late, it’s something genetic and all guys in my family are just like this!”

Be sure, my dear friends, that being always late has nothing to do with your family habits or the problems you usually mention in all those numerous excuses you are used to cover up your behavior with. Being late is linked with such things as thoughtlessness, laziness, a lack of responsibility for your own life and for the life of other people around you, as well as for certain inabilities or fears. In particular, one of the latest trends in the world of reasons why the people are late is believed to be the fear of coming first and waiting for the opposite side to arrive, which can sometimes be linked to many awkward moments and unwanted situations.

For those who are trying to combat their chronic lateness, who are willing to put some efforts into getting rid of this problem and willing to change something in their life, there are interesting tips to think over.

• Believe that your being always late can never be associated with anything good or positive. Making other people waiting is a thing that will always evoke anger and make you look arrogant in the eyes of other people.
• Never think that other things can be more important than your being on time for a stipulated meeting.
• If you see that you’re getting late and will not make it for the scheduled time, call the people you’re going to meet and let them know that you’re late. It will make you look at least responsible for the other people’s time and help the people who would need to wait for you plan their time in a more efficient way.
• Do not think that coming earlier to the meeting or dinner will make you get bored waiting for the other party. In our epoch of the most advanced technologies, it is possible to take the best of some free time you’re going to have while waiting. You can get a lot of other work done: arrange your further schedule and meetings using your smartphone, read and edit a report, read some online newspapers or other documents, and much more.
• Finally, by arriving to a meeting on time, you’ll get the opportunity to enjoy a stress-free course of the day.

Our life is filled with changes, and most people tend to feel scared and hate changes. But the truth is: we can’t escape changes and when time comes, we make decisions to change our job or move into another house, we lose our friends, we change the car, became parents of children or face other changes in our life. Those are actually quite big changes, and for many of us even such small ones like buying an new laptop or changing mobile connection provider is linked to numerous worries, stresses and other unnecessary negative feelings.

However, sometimes we have mixed feelings about changes, and we are waiting for changes both with fear and excitement. Even positive and promising changes can evoke feelings of anticipating something upsetting and disappointing. Some people feel scared of buying a new car thinking about the necessity to repair it or pay for its insurance. Many refuse having a pet like a dog or a cat because it will require extra efforts to take care about it. If you got tired of fighting against your fears and chronic anxiety related to changes, check out the tips below on how to cope with changes and make the transitions easier to live through.

1. Acknowledge the fears and uncertainty related to changes in our life. Remember that we are creatures of habit and it is normal to feel scared and intimidated by something new in our life. This is more likely in our nature, not in our psychology, so feeling uncomfortable about changing something in our life should be considered completely normal.

2. Do not feel shy to express your feelings. While experiencing changes, we live a great number of emotions, especially when we are thinking about various sides and details of the changes we are going through. It is very important not to keep anything inside and give the feelings a way to go out. This way one can get more control of the situation, begin feeling more confident and less vulnerable to the negative effects of changes. Give yourself some good time and show compassion to yourself to make it easier to go through changes.

3. Try to find positive sides and get concentrated on thinking about them. Undoubtedly, when you see more positive sides of an event or situation, it is much easier to live it. And we should remember that it is possible to find even small but positive sides in every changes, even the hardest and the most painful ones. Make positive moments be greater for you, and always hope for better outcomes and better results.

4. Talk to a friend or someone who can render you some support. Just like all other things in our life, it is better to live through changes when we receive help and support of other people. Share your feelings, ask questions and look for opinion of other people.