Always Late: Seeking For Love And Appreciation

Posted under I am Always Late on Saturday 26 February 2011 at 12:13 am

We already know that there are a great number of reasons behind being always late. Some chronically late people are too busy to be on time, some are very bad time estimators and can not plan their activity properly, some are having problems with developing their discipline muscle, some just don’t know how to say “no”, some become victims of time killers, and so on. However, it is possible to name several more reasons why some of us turn into chronic latecomers and make us wait for them all the time. For example, being always late may take source from the desire to feel loved, special and appreciated all the time.

Making other people wait is a tool for some latecomers to check out how much we love them, and how much time we are ready to sacrifice for them. At that, some of such guys actually understand that what they are doing is wring, and by behaving like that they would rather make us hate them. But some are certain that this is the best way to give us a chance to display our appreciation and affection. By making other people wait, some latecomers are seeking for love. Or, they need to feel like they are highly valued and treated like very special people.

always lateMany specialists believe that this reason is usually “supported” by some other stronger reason of being always late. In particular, some of chronic “love seekers” can be fueled in their tendency to make others wait by their nature of being rebels and break common social rules. Others are trying so hard not to look or behave like ordinary people and prove their being “different” by being chronically late. Or, these people who come late all the time, are only trying to feed their ego and prove to themselves that they mean something in this life.

What can we do in this situation and how to handle such type of latecomers? All you need to do is just make them understand that being always late is not something which can cause love and support friendship. For example, if you are waiting for your precious friend next to a cinema theatre and the movie is about to begin, you can comment on the situation as the following. Say that you can wait for him or her for hours because you are truly looking forward to your time with him or her. But if he or she is late, you won’t be able to see this new movie together (you both wanted to much to see it, right?), and you’ll have to spend your time is a crowded shopping mall instead. I guess this should work fine!

9 Ways To Keep Optimistic And Never Be Late

Posted under Motivation on Wednesday 9 February 2011 at 5:28 am

Stresses, anger, depression and other negative factors contribute pretty much to people’s being disappointed with life, ignorant and being always late. Everyone of us has a lot of problems and frustrations, but there is no other way to get rid of them all but making yourself spiritually stronger and mentally healthy. Fortunately, there is a number of recommendations which can assist us in achieving psychological stability and learning to feel happier.

A group of American psychologists created a list of the most effective ways to get the keys from happiness. Those include little things and little habits which we need to develop in order to feel better, keep optimistic and improve our mood. Psychologists are sure that even little sparks of happiness and positive thinking can become a very effective weapon on our hands, which can help us to beat frustration, anger, hate, procrastination, laziness, depression, as well as protect us from certain diseases and even prolong our life. Check out the suggestions below on how to learn feeling happier.

positive thinking1. Try to get focused only on positive memories in your life.

2. Try to remember how you feel when you experience pleasant sensations.

3. If you start feeling depressed and down, learn to pretend and act as you are feeling happy.

4. Try doing the activities you enjoy the most.

5. Share your positive emotions with the others.

6. Try to say “thank you” to other people as often as possible

7. Praise yourself for your efforts and for your achievements.

8. Celebrate important moments in your life.

9. Try to sincerely believe that the things in your life are going fine and will go even better day by day.

Undoubtedly, optimistic and positive thinking can help you develop such traits as high self-esteem, strong willpower, desire to be more responsible and more disciplined, etc. Even if you are buried under a huge burden of problems and stresses, sit back for a moment, take a deep breath and look around you. Life is beautiful and still you are in control of your own life. Try not to analyze bad experiences from you past, get concentrated on your now and on your future. Remember that happiness is always around, it just only needs to be noticed…