I am Always Late

Such bad habits as laziness, procrastination, being always late and a lack of effective time management skills are usually accompanied by many other negative habits and behaviors. In particular, it is obvious that if a person can’t estimate own time and always runs behind the schedule, his or her life is also filled up with incorrect self-esteem and ineffective decision making. In other words, latecomers very often have problems with consulting their inner self and deciding what is right and what is wrong for them. That is why they have difficulties with reacting on the events in an adequate manner and making good choices in their behaviors.

It is very important for such people to understand their problem and do everything possible to learn how to take control of their life. Certain personal approaches and trainings can be of a great help for developing effective decision making skills. For example, the concept of being proactive described by S. Covey in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People can be a very interesting exercise for many modern people who are willing to develop their personality, learn to make more considered and independent decisions, become more self-aware and successful in this life.

The trick is about not just merely reacting on the events that occur in your life, but being able to model various situations and events that could possibly occur in the future and find the ways to respond on them. Being proactive means acting ahead and using your foresight to predict certain situations which would possibly happen in your life. This way you will learn to construct, visualize and mentally process various situations, external or internal, generate a number of possible solutions, evaluate them and choose the most optimal and the best ones.

The main advantage of being proactive is the opportunity to train your mind in its abilities to find alternative solutions and decisions in various situations. You will be able to engineer different sets of circumstances and evaluate every single approach to finding effective solutions. Being proactive is a great tool to learn how to be more responsible in your life, learn how to get concentrated on solving the problems and not avoid them or procrastinate. This technique can help you evaluate critically your daily behavior and use your skills more effectively. And, finally, it can help you to get some motivation, learn to stick with the schedules and be more punctual.

Many readers of this blog write and complain about their difficulties and a lack of success while trying to change their habit of being always late. Being unable to achieve fast and lasting results is something very natural because becoming punctual is a clear example of banishing bad habits like giving up smoking or gambling. It can be even more complicated as developing a habit of being always on time is closely linked to serious changes of the whole lifestyle which the person has been practicing for many years. Many available programs, trainings and solutions promise easy changes and results, but mostly they fail…

It is really difficult to change the lifestyle that you are following for long time as it is connected to lasting changes and a lot of mental work. Many specialists believe that changing a bad habit requires much more than just action – it requires serious preparation and, in particular, changing your priorities. It is very important to set everything in your mind and be one hundred per cent sure that you really can win the battle against your unwanted habit. If you want to achieve success, you should accept the responsibility and make your war against your bad habit a number one priority for you.

In other words, if you want to become a timely person, if you want to never be late, demonstrate your reliability and respect to other people by not making them wait for you every time, you should always remember and think about of this. You’ll need to demonstrate your willpower and your commitment to your plan on breaking a bad habit. It is essential to develop the right attitude and ask yourself a question, do your reputation and your dependability play a role for you? If those are important to you, make your first priority to get rid of the habit of being always behind your schedules.

Changing your bad habit, combating procrastination and becoming a more disciplined and timely person is impossible without accepting responsibility and starting to think about other people. Give your attention to other people’s needs and expectations, and understand that making them waiting for you all the time is not the way they should be treated. Stop focusing only on what you can or can’t do. It can be hard and disappointing, receiving no fast and lasting results, but you know that millions of people like you have succeeded in their attempts to banish bad habits.

Again, make changing your habit your first priority. Stop thinking that there are things which do not matter, because even if they do not matter to you, they can be important to other people. Try to understand that every minute of your life is very valuable and important, and even a few minutes can change everything. Make a priority to do everything possible to be always early – this is not really hard if you really make up your mind for this. Remember that all you need to do to start being on time is to making the right decisions and the right choices.